Sunday, April 6, 2014

Wanita & Harta




Sejak tiga minggu yg lepas, memang busy..wekend pon sibuk..jumpa sahabat baik, dah 6 bulan sy tak jumpa dia..mengenangkan seorang lagi sahabat sy akan pulang terus ke negeri asal untuk kerja baru..sy setkan untuk berjumpa..banyak perkara dan cerita dibualkan. Sahabat saya yg seorang ini mengadu masalah, masalah mengenai sara hidup yang tinggi, dan komitmen terbarunya membayar bayaran bulanan rumah. Saya faham kegusarannya, simpanan tidak mampu dibuat, perbelanjaan untuk rekreasi tersekat. 

Lanjut kisah sahabat itu tadi, dia berkira2 mahu mencari pasangan yang kaya, sehinggakan dia sanggup mengeluarkan kenyataan menjadi isteri kedua pon boleh. Aduh!, sudah parah ni.. saya sebagai pekerja swasta paling sesak or terdesak boleh lagi mencari keje lain, atau berbincang dengan pihak pengurusan syarikat untuk revise gaji saya, tapi untuk sahabat saya ini yang bekerja di sektor awam, sukar untuk melakukan perkara demikian. Dia memberitahu bagaimana sudah macam2 pekerjaan sampingan dibuat, tapi hasil masih tidak mencukupi. Khali, saya hanya mampu diam.

Saya mohon dia bertenang, saya kata masih ada lagi kah harapan dan cita2 nya dulu?..dia pernah menyatakan "aku terima jika lelaki miskin melamarku..asalkan dia lelaki yang baik agamanya dan mampu menjadi IMAMku". Soalan saya dijawabnya laju.."aku memang mahu yang kaya ni..". hanya sosok lelaki yang kaya dalam benak fikirannya sekarang.

Saya terdiam. Betullah kata pendapat wanita itu sering begitu susah jika tanpa harta, dan kerana harta juga wanita sering lupa kudratnya. Ada rasa bersalah dalam hati sebagai sahabat, sudah terlalu lama kesibukan kerja saya menyebabkan saya mengabaikan hal keadaan sahabat-sahabat saya, sehingga saya tidak mengetahui mereka melalui permasalah seperti ini. Terhimpit antara harapan, dan keperluan hidup yang mendesak , dalam hati saya berharap sahabat saya ini tetap dengan prinsipnya yang dahulu..'Wahai sahabatku...semoga pekerjaan, harta dan kekayaan tak pernah menghalangimu untuk tidak menerima pinangan lelaki yang baik agamanya" 

WaAllahuA'lam

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Psikopat



Membaca berita seorang bapa yang kelar anaknya sehingga mati..membawa saya kepada pencarian maklumat mengenai sakit Psikopat.. benarkah jika diamati maklumat mengenainya, orang melayu kita cenderung untuk mengalami penyakit ini..???

Jika diamati dalam persekitaran biasa...perihal dan tingkah laku orang melayu especially sikap tidak acuh dan anti - sosial dalam masyarakat yang banyak berlaku boleh membawa kepada gejala-gejala sakit psikopat?

http://malaysianreview.com/39603/bapa-kelar-anak-cuba-bunuh-diri-sanggup-dihukum/
http://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psikopat
http://lifestyle.okezone.com/read/2013/08/30/198/858340/kenali-ciri-ciri-psikopat
http://health.detik.com/read/2013/09/27/090228/2370928/763/ini-yang-terjadi-pada-otak-psikopat-saat-melihat-orang-lain-kesakitan
http://internasional.kompas.com/read/2008/07/24/12091590/9.tanda.pria.psikopat
http://id.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080909125313AAd7nhe
http://aliefqu.wordpress.com/2012/04/23/hati-hati-terjerat-daya-pikat-psikopat/
http://majalahkesehatan.com/9-tanda-kepribadian-narsistik/
http://nurrohmanbpi.wordpress.com/2012/01/08/taaruf-mengenai-psikopat/
http://diannjulianty.wordpress.com/2012/02/28/gejala-ciri-ciri-seorang-psikopat/
http://ruangpsikologi.com/sekilas-tentang-psikopat/

PSIKOPAT di tempat kerja

Berikut ini beberapa ciri yang mungkin dapat menjadi isyarat adanya gangguan kepribadian psikopat:
  1. Pada awalnya menampilkan sikap yang menarik, cenderung dibuat-buat, memesona, dan menebarkan sikap hangat. Inilah yang membuat orang mudah memercayainya, dan dengan kepercayaan itu mereka mencelakai atau menipu korbannya.
  2. Beranggapan dirinya yang paling penting dan harus diistimewakan, semuanya berpusat pada dirinya, pokoknya untuk saya, pokoknya milik saya, pokoknya saya dan saya.
  3. Sering memperlihatkan perlakuan yang impulsif (meledak-ledak), sulit menunda dan mengendalikan emosi. Kalau punya keinginan harus sekarang, kalau tidak akan marah atau mengamuk.
  4. Hubungan pertemanan atau hubungan sosial yang singkat, sering ganti-ganti pasangan asmara atau ganti-ganti pekerjaan.
  5. Sering berbohong, menipu, dan mengkhianati.
  6. Kurang tanggung jawab atas perbuatannya, berani mengambil keputusan berisiko dan tidak dapat belajar dari pengalaman, selalu diulang terus, meskipun telah diberi hukuman atau peringatan.
  7. Kurang mampu merasakan perasaan orang lain, tidak peduli orang lain menderita.
  8. Cenderung menyalahkan orang lain untuk apa yang telah dilakukannya.

Wa'AllahuAlam..

Friday, January 31, 2014

Jepun la pulak...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PW11S5FR2oY


Tips from a Medical Professional on How to Keep the Cold at Bay - ProductiveMuslim.com



It is here, that dreaded time of year when the “sniffles” pay a visit. Before you have to call your doctor for an appointment, aim for prevention. The best way to fight the cold or flu is by being productively proactive. This reminds me of a saying, “An ounce of prevention is better than a pound of medicine”.
Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) Health and free time for doing good.” [Bukhari] Here are some tips on how you can fight the cold or flu, In sha Allah.


1. Think “Clean”

We tell our children to wash hands before and after eating, sneezing, coughing and so forth. So why do some of us forget the rule for ourselves? To keep the cold out of your home, wash your hands as soon as you get home. Get everyone in the household to get into the same habit.
Use an antibacterial spray to wipe door knobs in your home and common areas. Many aerosol sprays on the market kill 99.9% of the flu virus. If someone in your home has it, it’s a great idea to spray your house, specifically the ill person’s room.
When using a public toilet, use a paper towel to open and close the tap to wash hands, open the bathroom door, keep your hands off stair and escalator railings, as well as other areas that are commonly used in public. Hand sanitisers are not as good as washing hands, but might be a good plan B, if soap and water are not easily accessible.

2. Stay Active

Research show exercise can stimulate the immune system. If you feel cold or flu symptoms coming on — such as energy levels depleting, light achiness throughout your body or fatigue — even low-intensity cardio for 30 minutes, such as walking or riding the stationary bike, aerobics or the like will make a difference in how you feel.
For some of us, working out may be a difficult task to complete and the first signs of a cold or the flu coming on seem like a great excuse to not work out. Push through and you will feel much better. I have tried this; each time I pushed myself to work out, I felt much better. It slows down and even eliminates the onset of the cold or flu. If you do not have time for a full 30-minute session, aim for 10 minutes. Here are some articles that will inspire busy mothers, sisters, brothers and professionals alike to start making exercise a part of their daily routine. A home gym or a membership gym — there is definitely something for everyone.

3. Acquaint Yourself with Cold and Flu-Fighting Foods

Introduce your body to a diet rich in vitamins C and E. These vitamins boost your immune system. Foods such as almonds, avocados, spinach and fish are some examples of vitamin E rich foods. As for vitamin C, everyone knows citrus fruits are a great source, as well as broccoli, kale, cauliflower and strawberries, just to name a few. The micronutrients in natural foods give our cells the energy and sustainability required to fend off foreign invaders such as cold and flu viruses. If you have a diet that is high in sugar, now is a good time to start decreasing your sugar intake because diets high in sugar can weaken the immune response too.
Immune boost drinks are great as well. However, do not mistake them for energy drinks — I’m talking about the packets or tablets found in the pharmacy. They carry a whopping load of vitamin C, as well as antioxidants, electrolytes and other vitamins. A children’s version for your little ones is also on the market. If you cannot find the children’s version, you can give them the adult one. Just decrease the serving: half a serving or a quarter serving for toddlers. This too has been quite effective with my children. At the first sign of the sniffles, I begin dosing them up with the drinks twice a day. Alhamdulillah, because of this, I have not purchased over-the-counter medicine for my children in three years.

4. Constantly Hydrate

The human body is 66% water. Our bodies lose somewhere between 2.5-3 liters of water each day. Water loss increases during hot weather and when one is down with a fever. Water helps to regulate our body temperature; this is why it is a great fever reducer. Try to aim to drink half of your weight in water. To calculate, divide your weight in half. Example: 150 (lbs) ÷2 = 75. So you should aim to drink 75 ounces a day. Make it a habit to have a bottle of water with you at all times — on your work table or study desk, in your gym bag, backpack or handbag.

5. Adhere to the Qur’an and Sunnah

i. The “Golden” Liquid
Subhan Allah, we have been blessed with so many aids for our ailments. Honey is one of them. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)says in the Qur’an: “From inside them comes a drink of varying colors, containing healing for mankind. There is certainly in a sign in that for people who reflect.” [Qur'an: 16:69]
Honey is a great source of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants, all of which help improve immunity. It is also great for a cough. I am sure you have seen cough medicine “with honey” on the label. Recently, I tried taking one tablespoon honey for a cough. Usually with cough medicine, I would constantly cough, but one tablespoon of honey first thing in the morning, relieved chest congestion and kept the coughing spells away all day. This is because honey helps excrete mucus or phlegm. For children, try one teaspoon. It will be easier to have them down a teaspoon of honey compared to that nasty cherry-flavoured cough syrup.
ii. Hijama
Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah: He paid Al-Muqanna a visit during his illness and said, “I will not leave till he gets cupped, for I heard Allah’s Messenger ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) saying, “There is healing in cupping.” [Bukhari]
Hijama is the process of extracting toxic blood from the body through the process of cupping. Hijama is beneficial for all systems of the body. This is another form of ibadah as it requires reliance on Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). Ruqyah duas are said during the hijama session. A suction cup is applied over certain hijama points, (depending on the ailment) tiny surface scratches are made on the skin to extract the blood. Natural balance is restored to the body internally through the process of detoxification. It is a safe and painless process to keep you in the best of health. Hijama is recommended twice a year for healthy individuals. Resources are available online regarding this forgotten sunnah.
iii. The Black Seed
Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ”Use this black seed. For indeed it contains a cure for every disease except As-Sam” And As-Sam is death. [Jami' at-Tirmidhi]
Nowadays, many of us rely so heavily on prescription drugs and over-the-counter drugs. We forget we can give relief to our ailments with much more than the prescription given to us by our doctor. Try black seed with your medication and see what great benefit it brings you. There are many forms to choose from: Capsules, oils, or whole, choose the one that suits you best. Whenever I use it, I always make dua before taking it. Ruqyah duas that are used in hijama would suffice here, such as surah al-Fatihah, Ayatul Kursi and the al-Mu’awaithat ((The Protecting Ones (surahs 112-114)).
iv. Zam Zam
I know you might be thinking, this is non -accessible. However, there are many online Islamic stores that sell it. You may even find it at your local Islamic store, butcher etc. As with black seed, make dua for the intention you choose to use it for.

6. Get Immunised

Another way to be proactive, of course, is by getting a flu shot early in the season, which is around October. It is still not too late to get a flu shot, just practise the above proactive tips and be extra cautious the two weeks following your immunisation. This is the incubation period (the approximate amount of time it takes to start working in your body).
If all else fails and you do catch the cold or the flu, have patience and remember Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) has showered His mercy upon you, as illness washes away sins. Even if you do fall ill, you can still be productive (click here to see how you can be a productive patient). In short — there is never an excuse not to beproductive. Treasure your health, hasten to do good deeds and contribute to the Ummah.
How has your health been during this cold season? Try out these tips and share your experience in the Comments section below.
About the Author:
Shaheena Aziz is a mother of two, part-time student and full-time medical assistant who aspires to be a registered nurse.

Maximize Use of Your Time With These Tips From the Seerah - ProductiveMuslim.com


Maximize Use of Your Time With These Tips From the Seerah | Productive Muslim
Time is limited. Death is certain. However, our intention to live a productive life and to serve Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)and His creation will itself be enough to count as a positive action.
If you study the seerah (life of Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him)) with specific focus on his daily and regular routines, it is an eye-opener. How meticulous he was in planning every aspect of his day; how he prioritized tasks; how serious he was about keeping his word and how he kept his speech precise and not indulging in idle talk. He was the best of creation, Khayru-l-Khalq, and it is natural we should learn from his example. Below are five lessons on time-management that we can draw from the Prophet’s ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him)enormously productive and purpose-driven life.

1. Be an Early Riser

The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “O Allah, bless my nation in their early mornings (i.e., what they do early in the morning).” [Ibn Majah]
Schedule your important tasks earlier in the day, especially those which require mental exercise, and watch the barakah (blessings) from Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) do the magic. If you have problems staying up after Fajr, here’s an article that discusses tips on how you can do just that. In a nutshell, they are:
  • Go to bed early and rest
  • Untie your three knots
  • Perform the prescribed dhikr (remembrance of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)) after Fajr
  • Aim to pray Duha
  • Recite/reflect on/memorize Qur’an
  • Exercise
  • Have a list of tasks ready

2. Schedule Your Day Around the Five Daily Prayers

It was narrated that ‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud said: “I asked the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) which action is most beloved to Allah? He said: ‘Establishing prayer on time, honoring one’s parents and jihad in the cause of Allah.’” [Sunan an-Nasa'i]
Narrated Al-Aswad bin Yazid: I asked ‘Aisha raḍyAllāhu 'anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) “What did the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) do at home?” She said, “He used to work for his family, and when he heard the adhan (call for the prayer), he would go out.” [Bukhari]
No compromises. The discipline to give up all your work and life’s distractions to perform salah strengthens your willpower to live a purposeful life. Just as you endeavor to be punctual for meetings with your colleagues or project team mates, you should perform your salah on time.
While some of us who are students or working professionals may find it difficult to pray on time, we can overcome this by discussing the issue with your colleagues or friends. If you find yourself constantly finding pockets of time to peform your salah, your khusyu’ will be affected. Performing your salah on time will energize you — once you have fulfilled your most important obligation, the rest will become easy for you.


3. Prioritize and Be Consistent 

If we look into the seerah, we can deduce that the Prophet’s ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) day was divided into three main parts.
  • Spiritual development: This was the time he dedicated solely to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). It was typically the late part of the night when the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) would recharge himself spiritually for the next day and boost his resolve to face the challenges in his mission. It was during the night that he engaged in intimate communication with his Lord, the Source of all strength and empowerment, through qiyam (night prayer), dua (supplication) and dhikr.
  • Family affairs: The prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was consistent in making time for family matters.
    Anas ibn Malik said: “The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was the most merciful of people towards members of his family. He had his son (Ibrahim) suckled in part of Madina and the husband of his wet-nurse was a blacksmith. We used to go to him and the house would be full of smoke from the bellows. He would kiss the child and take him in his lap.” [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]

    Narrated ‘Aisha: that the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives, and when your companion dies, leave him alone.”
     [Jami' at-Tirmidhi]
  • Personal/Social affairs: He consistently made time for his followers so no one felt neglected or had their affairs swept under the carpet. This was the time when men and women would come with their personal, marital, financial, spiritual and even health problems. This is when he would receive delegations from other nations and faith group or attend to nerve-racking issues of politics, conflicts and leadership.
Figure out the real priorities in your life. What is worth spending an hour on? What comes first? What is a must-do and what is good-to-do? Allocate time consistently to activities that matter. Unless you plan for and schedule time for community work, studies or attending to parents, your spouse or children on a daily basis, they are not considered important enough to you. Chances are, you will eventually start neglecting these high priority actions.

4. Hasten in Doing Good

Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) had a sense of urgency in doing good and warned others against procrastination.
Narrated ‘Uqba bin Al-Harith: Once the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) offered the Asr prayer and then hurriedly went to his house and returned immediately. I (or somebody else) asked him (as to what was the matter) and he said, “I left at home a piece of gold which was from the charity and I disliked to let it remain a night in my house, so I got it distributed.” [Bukhari]
Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) having said: Hasten to do good deeds before six things happen: the rising of the sun from the west, the smoke, the Dajjal, the beast and (the death) of one of you or the general turmoil. [Muslim]
Procrastinators do not appreciate time nor the means and the opportunities that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) gives them to be productive. Each day has its own share of work and each time has its own share of obligations. Therefore, in the Prophet’s ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) life, there was no such thing as idle time. Use every single opportunity to do good. Don’t wait to ‘get old’ to fix your life. If you are not willing to live a purpose-driven, productivelife now, then how do you expect to live such a life when you are old?


5. Honoring the Time of Others

Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was sensitive to his companions’ raḍyAllāhu 'anhum (may Allāh be pleased with them) time and needs. His khutbahs (sermons) were brief, concise and powerful.
Abu Wa’il reported: ‘Ammar delivered to us the sermon. It was short and eloquent. When he (Ammir) descended (from the pulpit) we said to him: Abd al-Yaqzn, you have delivered a short and eloquent sermon. Would that you had lengthened (the sermon). He said: I have heard the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) as saying: The lengthening of prayer by a man and the shortness of the sermon is the sign of his understanding (of faith). So lengthen the prayer and shorten the sermon, for there is charm (in precise) expression. [Muslim]
Similarly, he emphasised the importance of fulfiling one’s promises.
Narrated Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri: Some women requested the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) to fix a day for them as the men were taking all his time. On that he promised them one day for religious lessons and commandments. [Bukhari]
It is reported on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: Three are the signs of a hypocrite: when he spoke he told a lie, when he made a promise he acted treacherously against it, when he was trusted he betrayed. [Muslim]
Aim to arrive for meetings, classes and events 10 minutes before they are scheduled to start. If you are running late, inform the other parties. Honoring others’ time is part of fulfilling your promise. Breaking a promise not only causes inconvenience to others, but also causes you to lose their respect. The Qur’an says:
“… and fulfill (every) engagement, for (every) engagement will be inquired into (on the Day of Reckoning). [Qur'an: Chapter 17, Verse 34]
Transforming your life into one that is much more productive, meaningful and enjoyable depends on one instantaneous decision: Managing your time the way our beloved Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) taught us. Start NOW!
The life of our Prophet Muhammad ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was an example to us in every way. This article has looked at just a few of those. What time-management tips have you extracted from Prophet Muhammad’s ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him)life? Please share with us in the comments below!
About the Author:
Taha Ghayyur is a writer, consultant and community organizer. He works as a freelance writer with WordMatters.ca and as the Development Manager with Sound Vision, a pioneer in Islamic multimedia in North America. He writes and speaks extensively on issues related to Muslim youth engagement, education, leadership, communication, self-development and community development.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Bangga dengan Usia



Jika Engkau masih muda
Tenang-tenangkan lah hatimu
kerana perjalananmu masih panjang
Pohon pengharapan masih rimbun,
hijau dan subur
justeru mudahlah bagimu
menjadikan mimpi satu kejadian yang sebenarnya.

Jika engkau telah tua
Tenang-tenangkanlah hatimu
kerana engkau telah terlepas 
daripada pertempuran dan perjuangan yang sengit
Engkau telah mengalami 
pengalaman yang dalam

Dalam sekolah hidup
Engkau telah mengetahui firasat manusia
dan tahu arah jalan yang bakal ditempuh
sedetik usia di umur tuamu
lebih mahal dan berharga
berbanding dengan bertahun-tahun
usia masa mudamu
kerana engkau telah mengalami
perjalanan yang panjang dan 
pengalaman yang pahit

(Al-Anisah Mai - Tasawuf Moden - Prof . Hamka)


Assalamu Alayka